- Control has everything to do with how we respond to our environment
- Every emotion is healthy however some we dwell on far too long
- Benefits of controlling the uncontrollable
In each of us is a bit of a control freak. For some, it is very small, for others, well…we call them control freaks.
I am sure that if there was a way to control every aspect of your life, you might strongly consider doing so. Unfortunately (or fortunately), none of us can control everything in life, which is something that we all learn as we gain more and more experience. Through this learned knowledge, we discover something very illuminating. We learn that most things are entirely out of our control.
However, it’s how we react to these things that are uncontrollable that truly determines how much control we really have over the world around us. Thinking that control is something external, rather than internal, is a misunderstanding that most of us face.
For example, you can’t necessarily control major moves in the company you work for; moves that could change the nature of your role or cause you to ultimately lose your job. Say the latter happens and you find out you are going to have to find a new place to work in a very short period of time. This is entirely out of your control, which means there are a number of different reactions you could have. Getting depressed or angry is obviously one reaction, one that won’t get you anywhere useful. It will definitely expend a lot of energy, and while it’s totally natural and allowable to feel this way for a short period of time, these are feelings that shouldn’t linger for too long.
Another reaction could be one of moving forward, of going out and finding a new job, taking a vacation that you have been putting off for years, or begin a new passion project that you have always wanted to pursue. This is a more positive reaction to the uncontrollable, and allows you to have control over where your life goes next.
Our response is the only thing that we can control and gives us absolute control over any situation.
Recall how you didn’t want to tell your friends or your parents something because of how they would respond. The response (yours and theirs) is the thing that controlled your action. And although you cannot control how someone else will respond, you can control how you receive their response.
This may seem small and insignificant, but it makes all the difference.
Mastering this ability is something that will help in countless situations, both small and large, throughout your life. It will help a person move on from tragedy and can keep you from being angry or annoyed at a minor situation for an extended period of time.
Of course, this will take a bit of practice, and a number of uncontrollable situations in which you will hone this ability. This article provides you the ingredients to appropriately respond to life’s uncontrollable situations that you will inevitably face in your future. From each of them you will learn something that you can use as a benefit and not tragedy.